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Its not Personal, is it?

 "Its not personal" A phrase I have heard many times over the years. Especially when a manager or employer prepares to deliver you bad news. I always disagreed with that. Maybe its one of my weaknesses and I know for sure, sometimes people have to be let go. But, its always personal. Your job is where you spend most of your time and therefore if it makes you miserable then and at times it carries over into your personal life. Thats personal. Added to that, many people, maybe most, live hand to mouth. They are counting down the days to pay day in order to buy their food for the family. so when you lose your job, you cannot feed your family and start to struggle with bills, then its absolutely personal. 

Those that know and have worked with me I hope would describe me as a happy go lucky person. But Ive had a lot of ups and downs. So much so that I became conditioned for bad news and bad luck. Ive of course left out the most graphic personal consequences but as an overview I feel its time to open up. By doing that I hope that if someone is going through a rough time that you might see that you can get through it as long as you find the power to stay in the fight. You can survive it.

As well as my new business now taking a new direction and change in strategy, I will also see how all my packed out experiences could help assist others. This is for everyone but also, we know that middle aged men and in particular those suffering economical downturn are most at risk of suicide. Having been in that situation I think I have some formula that I think quite possibly could help. 


Also, within sport, in particular for young people who face the trauma of being cast aside in football and all their dreams ending. Suddenly they have to find work and with an education thats been likely negatively effected by focusing their youth time on football. Added to that we have seen personal destruction of professional footballers facing early retirement. I also feel like I was cast aside in professional football, because I spoke up when I seen things that didn't sit right with my moral code. Especially in the treatment of young people. I learned quickly that in elite football this was not welcome. I guess Ive never been one to just agree with the crowd for self preservation and no doubt I sacrificed myself. That took some mental battles to come to terms with, but I am glad I said the things I did.

When your released from your job, whether that is sport, football, business. When your in a job that makes you miserable. When your treated unfairly or badly, When you feel inadequate because you cannot provide for your family despite all your hard work, then IT'S PERSONAL!

I am available for public speaking, personal development and talking workshops. Please get in touch. 


Anthony McCool

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonymccool/ 

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